Marriage season is upon us and I want to share some tips to increase the blessings in our marriages:
1- Marriage is not a competition to show off how much wealth we have. In most cases people go into serious debt getting married, and this should completely be avoided. Celebrate with in the means Allah has given you without being wasteful.
2- Your marriage should not only be a gathering for your close family members, but also for the members of the community. Do not forget to invite the elderly that frequent the Masjid, as they are the truly blessed people whose presence you would like.
3- Don't indulge in sin at your wedding. Music should be replaced with anashid. Try your best to segregate between the genders even if it means just putting them on opposite sides of the hall. The bride should not be drowning in so much make up that she is unable to make wudhu and pray. How you start of your marriage will effect how the marriage plays out.
4- Marriages are not good times to remind people about death or the hellfire. Rather any reminders that are given should be about practical advice on how to make marriages last, and a bit of humor would not hurt. There is a place and time for everything.
5- Some of the first acts that a couple should do: 1- Feed each other. 2- Pray together. 3- Supplicate for each other. 4- The left over food from the wedding share it with the poor. 5- Read Quran together. 6- Read books together, particularly about the rights and roles of the spouses, and about the psychological differences between the genders. 7- Take some time off to travel and learn about each other.
From the narrated supplications for the bride and groom: Baaraka Allahu lak, wa baaraka 'alaik, wa jam'aa baynakumaa fee khair.
May the blessings of Allah be for you, and may the blessings of Allah be upon you, and may He unite you upon goodness.
1- Marriage is not a competition to show off how much wealth we have. In most cases people go into serious debt getting married, and this should completely be avoided. Celebrate with in the means Allah has given you without being wasteful.
2- Your marriage should not only be a gathering for your close family members, but also for the members of the community. Do not forget to invite the elderly that frequent the Masjid, as they are the truly blessed people whose presence you would like.
3- Don't indulge in sin at your wedding. Music should be replaced with anashid. Try your best to segregate between the genders even if it means just putting them on opposite sides of the hall. The bride should not be drowning in so much make up that she is unable to make wudhu and pray. How you start of your marriage will effect how the marriage plays out.
4- Marriages are not good times to remind people about death or the hellfire. Rather any reminders that are given should be about practical advice on how to make marriages last, and a bit of humor would not hurt. There is a place and time for everything.
5- Some of the first acts that a couple should do: 1- Feed each other. 2- Pray together. 3- Supplicate for each other. 4- The left over food from the wedding share it with the poor. 5- Read Quran together. 6- Read books together, particularly about the rights and roles of the spouses, and about the psychological differences between the genders. 7- Take some time off to travel and learn about each other.
From the narrated supplications for the bride and groom: Baaraka Allahu lak, wa baaraka 'alaik, wa jam'aa baynakumaa fee khair.
May the blessings of Allah be for you, and may the blessings of Allah be upon you, and may He unite you upon goodness.
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