teach your child gently

Kids react in a positive manner to tender methods of disciplining rather than to constant threatening

Scolding or beating your child for every little mistake that they commit will only make them more rebellious. The task of disciplining a child needs to be handled carefully, delicately and with plenty of love.

Here's how you can discipline your child:

- Set examples for them to follow. Kids tend to ape the behaviour of elders. If you want them to get habituated to doing something, then you should do it too. For example, throw garbage in the bin or straighten your bed when you wake up or eat without chomping on your food. Your kid will automatically learn and follow these habits.

- If kids are unruly in a public place, be patient and try reasoning out with them first. If they still don't pay heed to you, resort to some stern words. If the behavior continues, walk away from them. However, remember not to raise your voice or slap them. Such a move on your part will result in them throwing tantrums to gain attention - negative or positive.

- Always treat your kids as grown-ups. They too look for respect and importance from parents. Compliment them on a task well done and include them in decision making processes like choosing their clothes or shoes or the colour for their room.

- Try not to scold your child. If you lose your temper, it will only reveal your weak spot and kids are quick to pick on those and use them effectively. Also, make sure that you possess the manners that you're trying to teach your child. For example, say 'please' or 'sorry' or 'excuse me' instead of pushing people out of your way.

- If your kid misbehaves in front of guests, don't scream at them. Wait till you get back home and then explain strictly that this kind of behavior is totally unacceptable. Also, warn them that if they repeat this behaviour, you will have to take stern action against them.

- Always ensure that a stern warning is followed by adequate acts of generosity and kindness. These acts will help your child realise the fact that your love for him hasn't diminished. It will also make him realize that you were displeased by only a certain act of his and not the individual himself.